Healthy habits for the new school year

It’s August, time for our kids (and teachers) to get ready to return to school. Even if your children are excited to begin school, it is typically a big adjustment for everyone. Getting back into the school routine can be difficult, especially after a relaxed summer schedule. Parents, you can assist your children and manage the increased pace by planning ahead, being realistic, and maintaining a consistent, structured schedule until school begins.

The new school year requires changes, which can be difficult for kids, especially for the younger ones. School-aged children who are sensitive or have anxiety issues or developmental delays may need more time to adjust than others. In order to alleviate discomfort and make the transitions easier, I suggest that parents talk to their children about the upcoming school year, the new teachers, and the excitement of making new friends. This type of dialogue is helpful to learn about your kids’ feelings so that you are able to understand their fears and help them move ahead in a positive, nonjudgmental way. Your reaction and response can assist your child in setting realistic goals and reducing internal concern. The conversations will open doors for future interactions.

Getting kids back on the early-morning wake-up routine can be extremely difficult, especially for teens and preteens. An idea that works well in establishing school protocol is to begin having them back into the habit of going to bed earlier and waking up earlier about a week before school starts. This slow change allows them time to adjust so that they are more comfortable and school-ready. It also helps to create a morning schedule in order to keep kids on track. Helping children by practicing the before-school behaviors of getting dressed, brushing teeth, and eating breakfast in a timely manner can help manage mornings in order to avoid stress and tempers. Establishing afternoon and evening schedules ensures that there will be time for homework, screen time, play, baths/showers, dinner, and bedtime. One of our many jobs as parents is to help our children adjust to new routines and to accept responsibility, in age-appropriate ways. A consistent bedtime routine helps to ensure a good night’s rest, which is important in having productive and happy school days.

Another great way to ensure success is to help your kids plan ahead. Encourage them to organize clothing, backpacks, and even lunch before going to bed. This way, an extra minute or two of snoozing eliminates a mad dash around the house and the chance of forgetting something important. I also strongly recommend avoiding screen time before school because it distracts kids from their routines and responsibilities. It also encourages children to stay calm and focused. Once your routine is established, you can slowly make concessions and allow some screen time. However, I would encourage you to save screen activities for after school.

Planning ahead for parents is also helpful as it encourages you to think about what meals you want to serve your family. Planning meals that are healthy and easy to prepare works because kids and families are going to be tired throughout the first few weeks back.

Establishing homework time and a designated place for kids to do their homework is also really helpful. Children thrive with structure and routine, so making sure they know what the expectations are in the afternoon is key to success. Having a set place to do homework, and knowing that they can play afterward, provides kids with the motivation to complete their work earlier in the afternoon.

Overall, it’s an exciting time of year, but also one that can be difficult to adjust to. Having a plan in place to help yourself and your family get prepared for the new school year is the key to less stress and less anxiety for all.

Social media – When is it time for kids to take a break?

Social media is meant to make us feel connected to others by allowing us to share our world with friends and family. If used sparingly, it can help form meaningful relationships and complement our social life in a positive manner. However, platforms like Snapchat and Instagram are designed to be addictive, and too much use can be associated with anxiety, depression, and cyberbullying. When does social media use become too much, and how do you know when it’s too much for your children?

The Pew Research Center reports that 69% of adults and 81% of teenagers in the U.S. use social media on a regular basis. This isn’t surprising, given that social media activates the brain’s reward center by releasing dopamine, the “feel-good chemical” linked to pleasurable activities like food, sex, and social interaction. Social media can provide many benefits, such as helping people in remote areas find bigger communities of support or acting as a substance-free escape from daily stressors.

Today’s children and teenagers are growing up with social media; they have never seen a world without posts, likes, comments, shares, or 24/7 access to news. Even my 5-year-old daughter talks about “clicking like and subscribing to my content” when she’s playing. In some ways, online interaction can come easier to youngsters who struggle with real-world social dynamics. But of course, everything is good in moderation, and excessive involvement with the cyber world can be detrimental to people of all ages.

There is a slippery slope with social media. Since the pandemic, we have seen a surge in social anxiety, especially when kids started to get back to in-person school, activities, and playdates. Having gotten used to the online world during quarantine, some kids became uncomfortable and anxious when meeting people face to face. The anonymity that social media provides can be great for those who are anxious, but it could also make in-person events more difficult for them.

Research from the Journal of Adolescence demonstrated that adolescents who overused social media—especially at night—appeared more emotionally invested in it, as well as experiencing poorer sleep quality, lower self-esteem, and higher levels of anxiety and depression compared with teens whose social media was limited.

Social media can be detrimental when it becomes a way of life, or when kids (and adults) become obsessive about it. If you or your children find that social media is a constant focus of attention, or if you are judging your self-worth from your “likes,” “dislikes,” or followers, it is likely time to reconsider the levels of social media usage in your home.

How do you know you need a break? Teens or younger kids aren’t always able to self-regulate or know when they need to take a break from social media. Parents need to monitor accounts and screen time to ensure that children aren’t spending more than 2-3 hours a day on screens. Parents should get to know some of the accounts their kids follow to check that they are a positive influence and are not promoting poor body image or negative self-worth.

As a board-certified child psychiatrist, I always recommend asking children questions on a regular basis to see if they appear preoccupied with getting likes or follows on their posts or videos. I would also suggest following their YouTube channel to look for anyone “trolling,” or posting mean comments. Additionally, observe your kids to see if they appear sad or angry after checking social media. This can be a sign that it is problematic. If your child can’t put down the phone or iPad without getting anxious or upset, then a break is surely needed.

Here are some other recommendations:

  • Schedule tech-free times for the family—like during meals, homework, and bedtime.
  • Look up some app blockers and parental control devices.
  • Discuss and set designated time limits on access to social media.
  • Turn the Wi-Fi off overnight to ensure that teens are not using social media when they aren’t supposed to.

There are always ways to improve the family’s interactions with the online world. The more openly parents communicate with children, the better they will understand how social media affects the way young people think about others and feel about themselves.

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Dr. Nicole Mavrides is the Medical Director of Psychiatry for PM Pediatrics. Dr. Mavrides is quadruple board certified in pediatrics, adult/child psychiatry, and consultation liaison psychiatry. Previously, Dr. Mavrides was the training director for Child and Adolescent Psychiatry and the medical director of the Pediatric Psychiatry Consultation Liaison Program at the University of Miami. She is one of the premier specialists for children with medical and psychiatric issues in South Florida