MSDSTRONG: LEARN FROM THE NRA

It started with the incessant sounds of sirens – police cars, ambulances, emergency vehicles, fire engines – racing past the office windows. Then one of our staff received a phone call, the distraught caller informing the staffer of the shootings at Stoneman Douglas High School and asking if the staffer’s grandson was safe.

I immediately connected to the Coral Springs Police Department streaming broadcast and listened with horror and disbelief to the mostly dispassionate, professional voices of the dispatcher and police officers, talking about the still unclear situation at the high school. The only good moments were the reports of probable suspect in sight, soon followed by suspect in custody.

As the hours and day passed we, along with the nation and the world, watched the constant replays of scenes of terrified students being escorted from the school buildings, and of fearful families and friends waiting for news and to be reunited with loved ones.

The following weeks were filled with highs and lows: the inspiring, passionate, heartfelt eloquence of so many of the MSD students on and off TV, voices heard around the world; the many memorial and funeral services for the victims. Nor will we forget the debates, confrontations, marches, and protests involving students and political leaders.

And then came the reality – the politicians and their photo ops and mealy-mouthing, and worst of all, the blame game. I won’t play the blame game  –  I don’t have the facts (nor do I think does anybody else yet other than the published details of the murderer’s interactions with the school and authorities) and haven’t researched the law. But the politicians … Where to begin?

Let’s make one thing clear at the outset: We are not suggesting the repeal of the 2nd Amendment of the U.S. Constitution or taking guns away from law-abiding citizens. We know that many households in Parkland own guns. We also know that there were more than 1.7 million concealed weapons permit-holders in Florida in 2017. What we are supporting is awareness of the 26th Amendment and using it to accomplish the stated goals of the SD students.

Amendment XXVI: …The right of citizens of the United States, who are eighteen years of age or older, to vote shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any State on account of age… 

 This brings us to the NRA. “Founded to advance rifle marksmanship in 1871, the group has informed its members about firearm-related bills since 1934, and it has directly lobbied for and against legislation since 1975. It has been called “the oldest continuously operating civil liberties organization” and “one of the largest and best-funded lobbying organizations” in the United States. Observers and lawmakers see the NRA as one of the top three most influential lobbying groups in Washington, D.C. Over its history the organization has influenced legislation, participated in or initiated lawsuits, and endorsed or opposed various candidates.” (Wikipedia)

According to the NRA’s 2017 press kit, American Rifleman, its leading magazine mailed to every member, had an “audience of 5, 560,000.” The actual membership of the NRA is estimated to be about a million less. But it is the “audience,” which is much more than a million, which makes so many politicians mealy-mouthed and wary of doing what may be best for the people they supposedly represent, like banning ARs (defined by Merriam-Webster as “a gun that can shoot many bullets quickly and that is designed for use by the military”).

The strength of the NRA lies not in bankrolling candidates; in fact, since 2000, the NRA’s donations to current members of Florida’s House and Senate amount to zero.  Its strength lies in the grades it gives elected officials and candidates, ranging from A+ to F, that reflects on how their voting records, public statements, and responses to a questionnaire line up with the NRA’s own positions, including gun rights. (Governor Rick Scott, a probable candidate for U.S. Senator in November, has received an A+ rating from the NRA during all his years as governor.)

Voting bloc — a group of voters that are strongly motivated by a specific common concern or group of concerns to the point that such specific concerns tend to dominate their voting patterns, causing them to vote together in elections.

The NRA will support, by mailings, print, and digital advertisements, etc., any candidate seeking election or reelection that has an A+ rating. It also solicits its “audience” to support these people. This is single issue voting, bloc voting. Whether you love or hate the NRA, it is extremely successful at what it does. No level of outrage will come to anything if the NRA can continue to dominate gun control issues. Adopting its tactics would be good place to start.

The grassroots — the ordinary people in a society or an organizationespecially a political party

In the 2016, there were 26,913,000 people aged 18-24 in the U.S. For the 2016 U.S. Presidential election, 50.85 percent registered to vote, 39.4 percent (10,603,722) voted. This is 7.76 percent of the total votes cast. I’m not smarter than you, I’m not as media aware as you, but I have lived longer and seen more, and I tell you, you must start at the grassroots! You will not change the political “bes” or “wannabes” only with protests or speeches. Instead, use your smart phones and computers. Continue to reach out to your contacts on the various social media, have them reach out to their contacts…everybody may not agree, but if you contact enough people, you will have a voting bloc.

Urge them to register to vote as early as they can. Urge them to learn the issues and the positions of the candidates on these and other issues they feel important at all levels – local, state, and federal (all too frequently, the local councilman really wants to be President of the United States). Urge them to vote in all elections, at all levels.

Low election turnouts historically favor well-organized single-issue constituencies, such as the NRA. If you support gun control, take the same cue. Turn those coveted “A” and “B” grades from the NRA into a weight around politicians’ necks, and the “F” into a badge of honor. Register to vote and then actually cast a ballot.

But this is not enough. In today’s society, one “hot” issue is soon displaced by another. To keep the issues that are today important to #MSDStrong, you must build, build, build. The NRA has been directly lobbying and influencing voters for more than 40 years. You have only been doing it for months. Yes, important battles have been won in Tallahassee: the age to buy a rifle or shotgun has been raised to 21; a three-day waiting period has been imposed on the sale of rifles and shotguns; the use, sale, or possession of bump stocks has been banned. But the bill contains a controversial provision long desired by the NRA that would allow school personnel to be armed under a voluntary program, and, most importantly, a ban on assault rifles and high capacity magazines was rejected.

Also consider, in several months, many of you will be graduating and moving on throughout the country. How will your voices be continued? Will the passion and determination you exhibit be there then? Will you be deterred or distracted by new places, commitments, friends, and duties? What will you do to continue a contest that will take years; against opponents like the NRA that immediately brought a (probably unsuccessful)  federal lawsuit against the increase in age restriction?

The NRA has great patience. A recent Monmouth University poll found that 50 percent of NRA members polled disapprove of how the grieving Parkland students have handled themselves in the media. Sixty-five percent say the students are not effective advocates, and 61 percent believe they are being manipulated by outside groups rather than expressing their own beliefs. The NRA will continue to support the politicians that vote as they believe, not just in Florida but also on all levels – local, state, and federal. Learn from them; they’ve been doing it longer, and for them, doing it right!

Addressing Parkland

Never did I expect to be addressing a school shooting in Parkland. The City of Parkland, the City of Coral Springs, and countless communities throughout Broward were affected by the horrific and devastating tragedy that took place on 2/14/18. Together we faced an unspeakable tragedy that none of us could have ever imagined — the attack on our school where 3,300 of our children go each day to learn, better themselves, build a future, and interact with their friends and the teachers who care for them.

Our hearts are heavy, as they will be for a long time, for the families who lost a loved one. We are also heartbroken for those who were injured, the students, teachers, staff, and first responders who saw things no one should ever have to see. We also feel for those who suffered the loss of a friend, a teammate, a student, a teacher, a neighbor, a coworker. We feel for those who waited excruciating lengths of time to hear from loved ones not knowing if they were safe.

As we grieve, each of us in our own way, it is important we understand everyone grieves in different ways and in different time. We should all be understanding and respectful of the grieving of others —realizing there is no wrong way to grieve. No one should be left to feel guilty for the way they are processing this tragedy. This is not a time for judgment or critique, but a time for extending kindness and offering support. That will serve to unite us and that is how we will get through this together.

Parkland has always taken great pride in being a close-knit city of families. We see families at every event in the City, we see them biking together, we see them in the grocery store. On Wednesday, February 14, 2018 the Parkland family grew much larger. In the immediate aftermath of the events on that day and continuing now, so many people and organizations have reached out to our City with assistance and support. Many of them from distant places, but all of them reassuring us that we are not alone, that we have family all across the country.

To our immediate family — the students, faculty, and staff of Stoneman Douglas High School, the residents of Parkland, our neighbors in Coral Springs who suffered the impact just as we did — we are here for you to move forward together. To our extended family of those around the country who have offered a sympathetic hand, we welcome you and are strengthened by your compassion and the piece of our heart that you now occupy.

As the nation, and the world, has watched news coverage of our community, they have realized what a special place this is. They have seen our community rally together quickly. They have seen our strength and determination. They have seen our wonderful students speak out eloquently about the need for change so this never happens again.

We have a long and difficult road ahead. Many in our northwest Broward community are suffering and grieving. We must ensure they have the support and resources to navigate through this. Our community has always risen to the occasion to help others and I know we will be strong and help each other. Together we will get through this with our community support and the support of our extended family.

There are many names I could mention at this time. People who have been heroic, supportive, and instrumental in so many positive things that have transpired in such a short span of time. And I know they will understand if I mention only 17 names in this column.  #ParklandStrong. #MSDstrong.

Alyssa Alhadeff, Scott Beigel, Martin Duque Anguiano, Nicholas Dworet, Aaron Feis, Jaime Guttenberg, Chris Hixon, Luke Hoyer, Cara Loughran, Gina Montalto, Joaquin Oliver, Alaina Petty, Meadow Pollack, Helena Ramsay, Alex Schachter, Carmen Schentrup, and Peter Wang.

No words that can be spoken

There are truly no words that can be spoken to ease the pain of the tragedy at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. What can you say to the parents and families who lost a beloved child? What do you say to a community, whose city is named the safest in Florida to live in and the fifteenth safest in the country, now being listed as a city in which the eighth worst school shooting in the nation occurred?

You don’t say anything. You just be there to listen, and weep. You be there to support the community as it recovers and heals.

From the moment the news broke, the shock, disbelief, and horror of this mass shooting took our breath away. Watching the news reporters and officials break down as they brought us the updates only emphasized the horror of what had transpired. As the story developed and facts came to light of how and why this happened, it still made no sense. We don’t know if it ever will.

We pray for the families to find the strength to endure the pain that will never go away, to relearn how to live life with a semblance of normalcy, and to, above all, express their love for each other and keep that love strong. We pray for a speedy recovery for the injured. We pray for the physically uninjured to have full emotional recoveries. We pray that this never occurs again.

 

the Parklander

Catching Pythons With Science, Not Guns or Knives

Oh, you know all about the danger invasive pythons pose in the Everglades and the annual hunt by folks who come from afar for bragging rights or to collect a bounty.

 

But I’ll bet you don’t know all about the science behind the effort to reduce the python population before they destroy the populations of deer, bobcats, rabbits, and other animals being wiped out, thanks to the pythons that have no predator.

 

Right now, for example, a cooperative effort by Canadian scientists and Florida wildlife experts is underway with federal help at the National Wildlife Research Center in Gainesville, Florida, financed by the Florida Fish and Wildlife Conservation Commission. They are experimenting with ways to trick male pythons into slithering into a trap. How? They start with skin that pythons have shed. Then, using a complex process involving various chemicals, they extract pheromones from the skin. They build a maze in the laboratory and spread female pheromones through the maze to see if males will follow the trail into a trap.

 

You could say this is a centuries-old idea. Question: How can you trap men? Answer: Get them to chase women. Ian Bartoszek, a biologist with the Conservancy of Southwest Florida, puts it this way: “A male python is the best female detector on the plant.” And females are more important to catch.

 

If the “trick-them-with-pheromones” technique can be perfected, we could kill many males, eliminating some that would fertilize female eggs.

 

That would be helpful, but finding and removing females would be more effective because they have so many eggs — as many 70, 75, or 80.  Besides using pheromones, another method using the males to lead hunters to females is underway.

 

Bartoszek and his colleagues are at work searching for pythons and attaching radio-tracking devices to the males, knowing they will lead them to the potential mamas. Finding them in the first place, though, is no walk in the woods. Well, it actually is a walk in the Everglades — sometimes a long walk through knee-deep muck that sucks your foot down with every step. By all accounts, pythons are very difficult to see because they so easily blend into the Everglades landscape. An ecologist from the University of Arkansas, John Wilson, is quoted in Popular Science magazine that you can stand on a python and not even know. They can move fast, so even when you snag one it might get away. Two or three people may be needed to hold an 11-footer.

 

With the radio-tracking strategy, the snakes are let loose when they’re tagged and may eventually seek out the ladies. A helicopter tracks the electronic signals and leads hunters on the ground to the capture. In the meantime, the python might kill some mammals, but catching an egg-filled female is worth the price. The strategy has reaped some benefits. In 2015, for instance, Bartoszek reported trapping four males in a hole with a 14-foot female, capturing 240 pounds of python and a lot of eggs. In a public radio interview Bartoszek said he and his fellow scientists have eliminated more than 2,000 pythons from the Everglades National Park since 2002. Yet, the python population is still growing, and Ian Bartoszek said the range is expanding northward.

 

The ecological battle is on, but it’s not yet being won. Scientists will be the most effective warriors we have in the battle.

“Roll Tide” for Local Student

With so many students participating in extracurricular activities, it is easy to overlook the fact that being on any type of team is more than just fun; it is a commitment. Time, money, and hard work are among the sacrifices made by both the students and their families, but the drive to excel is worth it for many. Former Marjory Stoneman Douglas student, Rachel Edrich, is one of those students. The now 22-year-old University of Alabama senior shares the journey that led her down what was previously an unexpected path.

Rachel had danced and played soccer but things took a turn when a neighbor saw her out spinning a flag and suggested that she try out for the color guard. Swapping a flag for a rifle, Rachel made the team. She admitted that she did not like it at first but decided to continue. When asked now what advice she would give to younger girls she responds, “Do not give up.” The career of many student-athletes ends in high school but the commitment to her practices, training, and competitions has taken her far beyond that point. Rachel Edrich

Upon acceptance to the University of Alabama, Rachel decided that she would try out for its color guard. Rachel was given a prior opportunity to prove herself when Alabama scouts attended one of her high school competitions being held in Ohio. Once she made it to Alabama and was given the opportunity, she became part of the Alabama Million Dollar Marching Band Color Guard.

With 37 young women on the team, Rachel describes it as being “one big sisterhood” where “everyone has your back.” Veteran members are teamed up with the incoming freshmen for what is called “Big Sister, Little Sister.” With daily practices, strength training, and a full academic schedule, the young women are there to help each other through any hurdles they might encounter. There are high expectations of this team as they are expected to maintain an image of being strong and fit as they represent the University of Alabama.

While maintaining the level of athleticism that is required to control their equipment and perform for a five-minute routine, there is still a lot of glitz and glamour that goes along with being part of the color guard. Every year the women receive a new uniform, custom made and studded with rhinestones. Rachel said that since she has been there, the big script A has remained a signature feature of the uniforms and that it always looks stunning and photographs beautifully when they are on the field.

Rachel expresses her excitement for game day. “The best thing I can ask for is to get out on the field every Saturday and be a part of such an existing tradition.” She said that one of the things she enjoys most is looking out from the field and seeing how the fan base is generational, spanning all ages.

Describing what it is like to be part of this team, Rachel explains that it is more than performing; it is about bonding with other people. Being part of the team has also taught Rachel valuable life skills that will help her continue on her journey. While she must try out for the team every season, for now Rachel will continue to greet everyone with a “Roll Tide” as is the tradition with ‘Bama fans.

Time to Branch Out and Give

During this time of year that is often spent receiving, take a moment to consider what it means to give. With the excitement of the holidays, it can be easy to forget about those who are less fortunate. However, the truth of the matter is, there are many people within our own community who struggle when it comes to obtaining everyday necessities, not to mention having the means to provide gifts for children. There are several opportunities for everyone to help, whether it is through volunteer work or donations. One of the local organizations that participates in lending a helping hand to the Palm Beach County area is The Giving Tree.

The Giving Tree is a non-profit organization that was established more than 25 years ago by Myra Singer, a member of Temple Beth El, a local synagogue in Boca Raton. Myra established The Giving Tree after realizing that there were many people in the community who were struggling to make ends meet. Since then, the organization has seen hundreds of volunteers each year and has helped more than 2,000 people in the Palm Beach County area. Giving Tree

Help is offered to people who reach out to The Giving Tree through agencies that sponsor those in need. The agencies that work with The Giving Tree include Best Foot Forward, Caridad, Children’s Home Society, Family Promise of Boca Raton, and more. Each of these organizations offers different services to people in need in the surrounding areas. These services include housing assistance, afterschool and educational programs, as well as helping foster children who have been neglected or abused.

The Giving Tree organization is run entirely on a volunteer basis. During the holiday season, they need more volunteers to help spread holiday cheer to the less fortunate. Anyone is welcome to participate in the volunteer program, even children, provided they are accompanied by an adult. The volunteer work includes gathering and sorting through donated items, wrapping presents for the children, and helping to deliver them on Christmas Eve. This year’s location for the volunteer work will be the T-Rex Corporate Center, located down the street from Temple Beth El on Yamato Road in Boca Raton.

Donations are accepted in all shapes, sizes, and quantities. However much or little a person can give is always appreciated. Donations can vary from everyday necessities to holiday gifts for the children. Everyday necessities include school supplies, clothes, hygiene products, and other similar products. Gently used electronics are welcomed as well. These include gaming consoles, iPods, cameras, and computers. Gift cards from Walmart, Target, or VISA/AMEX are also accepted to help adults and seniors pay for food and gas. To arrange for these items to be picked up, email TheGivingTreeBoca@gmail.com. During the holiday season, it is also possible to drop the donations off at this year’s volunteer location.

While year-round donations and volunteer work is encouraged, The Giving Tree offers a special opportunity to those in the community during the holiday season. The Holiday Gift Program consists of children’s Wish Lists. Those who volunteer to participate in this event will receive a Wish List from a child who has found themselves in a circumstance that prevents them from receiving any gifts for the holiday season. The volunteer who is assigned the Wish List is in charge of shopping for this child’s desired Christmas items, which the volunteer will later drop off at this years volunteer location. Although the child’s identity and personal details remain anonymous, the donor will be left knowing that they played a part in helping a child smile on Christmas morning.

The Giving Tree is an organization that has not only had a positive effect on those in need, but also on those who have participated as volunteers. Judy Gordon, one of the co-chairs of the organization, claims that her work with The Giving Tree has allowed her to obtain a better understanding of the amount of need within the community that surrounds us. Judy said, “Right here in our own backyard, there are children who go without meals and don’t have the necessary things to help them be successful.”

So often, we feel as though helping people is beyond our abilities. Either the people in need are too far away or the amount of help needed is too great. Thanks to organizations such as The Giving Tree, people are granted an opportunity to help those in need. Judy said, “People are so generous. They don’t know how to give, so when they hear about us, it gives them the opportunity.”

Donations, no matter how large or small, as well as time spent volunteering, no matter how long or short, make all the difference in the world to someone without means. For more information on how you can help, email The Giving Tree at TheGivingTreeBoca@gmail.com or call Temple Beth El at 561-391-8900.

Cheering for a Leader

She began dancing at four years old. She began cheerleading in middle school and instead of never looking back, she looked forward to being a Miami Dolphins cheerleader. Adrianna had big dreams for her future and with some encouragement for her high school coach, Shannon Ferguson, who once was a Miami Dolphins cheerleader, had Adrianna attend weekly cheerleading classes in preparation for the auditions.

“I knew being a Miami Dolphins Cheerleader is something I wanted to fulfill when I was 18,” she said. While waiting to turn 18, the age young women can audition to be a cheerleader, Adrianne was an All-District Lacrosse player and got her certification in Child Care.

Adrianna is now in her fourth season as a cheerleader. One of the things she enjoys most about being on the team is how much they do for the community. “We do so much for the community, we visit troops overseas, attend charity events, hold cheer clinics for children, and visit hospitals during the holidays. We are always putting a smile on someone’s face and I admire that about this organization,” she said. Cheerleader

In January 2016, Adrianna and the cheerleading team got to visit the troops in SW Asia. In December 2016 she and the cheerleaders traveled to Belgium, England, Germany, Kosovo, the Netherlands, and Spain. These are experiences she wouldn’t have had if it weren’t for the Miami Dolphins.

Sometimes cheerleaders get negative press. They’re thought of as not very smart and are objectified. Fortunately for Adrianna, that has not been her experience.

“I’ve been a cheerleader for four years now and I have never had any negative experiences. Our fans are great and very supportive. At the end of the day, we are all cheering on one of the best teams in the NFL. What makes the Miami Dolphins special to me is that we are always giving back to the community and helping others feel comfortable within themselves. I love to inspire and empower women to be the best version of themselves and being part of the Miami Dolphins Organization I am able to fulfill that role and take it to the next level.”

Adrianna is currently in school studying fashion and interior design and aspires to become an interior designer and fashion retail owner. “My vision is to make everyone feel confident and express their inner beauty. I have learned over the past few years to appreciate the little things, accept others opinions and continue to bring to mind that I am doing what I love and what makes me happy,” she said.

She also thinks about the influence she may have on little girls. If she was to give them any advice, she uses a favorite quote, which says: “To have the courage to think differently, the courage to discover the impossible and the courage to conquer any problem and succeed.”

As a nod to the Miami Dolphins, Adrianna is proud of the fact that the Dolphins organization is very community minded. She credits them with her “learning to appreciate the appreciate the little things, accept others opinions and to continue doing what I love and makes me happy.”

Adopt A Soldier

The start of the holiday season is approaching, and with it brings about a time when people begin to think of spreading joy to others. It is in this holiday spirit that one particular organization is enabling individuals to support U.S. soldiers who are overseas fighting for the country’s freedoms everyday. The Adopt A U.S. Soldier program, started in 2005 by Ann Johnson, connects deployed soldiers with those seeking to show their gratitude.

The U.S. soldiers, stationed overseas miss their homeland and posses an overwhelming feeling of jubilation to hear from the people who appreciate the sacrifices they make for us all. When Ann Johnson’s son Paul was deployed to Iraq, she wrote him a letter once a week and when she sent him a care package, Paul shared it with his unit. The troops were thrilled to receive items from home. Ann’s friends found out and started sending Paul packages too, which he then shared with his platoon. The amount of supporters grew exponentially and today, Adopt A U.S. Soldier, according to the website adoptaussoldier.org, “is active in over 170+ countries/ territories/ independent states with over 1,000,000 active volunteers supporting our troops.”

Kelly Watters, a registered nurse in the cardiovascular intensive care unit at Broward Health Medical Center, signed up with the Adopt A U.S. Soldier program about a year and a half ago. She was in love with a soldier 20 years ago who was deployed and all he asked of her was to write him letters while he was away. Unfortunately he was killed in action and never made it back home to see her again.

While researching good causes for the hospital to get involved in as a community outreach program, Kelly stumbled upon The AAUSS program. Sounding very dear to her heart, Kelly knew the program could brighten up the lives of the men and women deployed overseas. With the memory of her fallen loved one whom she lost 20 years earlier, she knew how much enjoyment and excitement a soldier feels when getting a letter from back home.

Kelly brings awareness to the program by speaking to groups and sharing her experiences. She is now on her fifth soldier in the course of a year and a half and finds that the program is beneficial to the soldiers and feels very rewarded to participate.

According to The Adopt A U.S. Soldier organization, “most deployed troops hardly ever receive a thank you, a kind word, or even a card or letter from home, let alone a simple care package to remind them what they’re fighting for.”

This holiday season you can make a difference in someone’s life. By adopting a soldier through the Adopt A U.S. Soldier program you too can have the opportunity to connect with soldiers overseas in order to show them your support. Go to adoptaussoldier.org and make a rewarding difference for you and someone else.

 

 

Giving Brings Thanks

When you sit at your Thanksgiving tables later this month to celebrate, you’ll likely give thanks for your blessings. But before the holiday arrives, or even on the day, you can participate in one or more giving efforts for those in need. The communities of Parkland, Coral Springs, and the surrounding area offer multiple chances to do a good deed before you enjoy your own Thanksgiving meal.

The City of Coral Springs is holding its 29th annual THANKSforGIVING event, which “relies on community help to donate items for Thanksgiving baskets given to families in need,” according to the city’s website. “Residents and business owners are asked to give to this worthy cause as the Thanksgiving holiday approaches.”

The deadline for dropping off non-perishable items is November 3. Food items needed include canned yams, mashed or flaked potatoes, stuffing, gravy, cranberry sauce, cookies, canned corn, green beans, canned fruit, cookies, rice, soup/ramen noodles as well as macaroni and cheese. You can drop off donations at the Aquatics Complex – 12441 Royal Palm Blvd.; City Hall – 9551 W. Sample Road; City Hall in the Mall – 9239 W. Atlantic Blvd.; and, the Coral Springs Gymnasium – 2501 Coral Springs Drive.
City staff will place all donated items in baskets, together with a gift certificate for a turkey, ham or main dish. Volunteers at religious institutions will distribute the items to preselected families. For more information, call Mary-Lin at 954-346-1356 or MaRhea at 954-346-1355. The city will also accept monetary donations toward the cause.

Kim Sanecki, volunteer services coordinator for the city, said it “never ceases to amaze me” how generous and involved the community is. “I think it says that we’re so lucky to live and work here, where people want to give back to the community,” she said. “Coral Springs is a great place to live and people want to get involved and give back because of that. Last year, thanks to donations, the city was able to provide 400 food baskets for Coral Springs residents in need,” Sanecki said. She also commended city employees for their willingness to donate. “Our employees are so charitable,” Sanecki said.

Another opportunity to help is through Broward County-based Harvest Drive, Inc. It distributes food items at more than 15 Broward County middle and high schools. While the Harvest Drive takes place year-round, the largest project occurs in November. That is when more than 2,300 families receive a week’s worth of groceries, household items, and other things for an entire Thanksgiving meal and beyond.

Jodi Samson, the Harvest Drive district coordinator and a Broward County School social worker, said each family receives 8 to 10 bags of groceries. Students from more than 180 schools, collect, sort, and pack food items under adult supervision. When families arrive to pick up the groceries, adults volunteer to distribute them.

If any organization wishes to donate food, they should bring it to their nearest distribution site. In the Parkland/Coral Springs, area, the nearest sites are Westglades Middle School, 11000 Holmberg Road in Parkland, JP Taravella High School, 10600 Riverside Drive, and Coconut Creek High School, 1400 NW 44th Ave., Coconut Creek. For information as to when you should donate food items and/or money, contact the schools. The phone number for Westglades Middle School is 754-322-4800, while you can reach JP Taravella High at 754-322-2300 and Coconut Creek High School at 754-322-0350.

“We love our volunteers,” Samson said, adding that part of Harvest Drive’s mission is to teach youngsters to give back to their communities.

“In addition to the business and community donations, children are at the helm of all collections,” according to a Harvest program description. “In addition to helping others, the purpose of the Harvest Drive is to teach children at an early age that their contributions can make a difference in the lives of others.” For more information, visit harvestdriveflorida.com.

Farther north, the 2017 Thanksgiving Box Brigade can use your help. The program is part of Boca Helping Hands, a nonprofit organization with a mission to provide food, medical and financial assistance to meet basic human needs. It works like this: People pick up a box from the organization and fill it with the following: (1) 6 oz. Stove Top stuffing mix, (1) 10.5 oz. canned gravy (no glass jars), (1) 1.56 oz. powdered drink mix, (4) 15 oz. canned vegetables, (2) 15 oz. canned fruit or fruit cocktail, (2) 4 oz. instant mashed potatoes mix, (1) 29 oz. canned yams, (1) 14 oz. cranberry sauce, (1) 15 oz. canned pie filling and (1) 9-inch Ready Made Pie Graham Cracker Pie Crust (not refrigerated). Families, who registered in October for a Thanksgiving dinner, will receive a turkey and one of the boxes. Each box will feed a family of four.

If you’re interested in filling boxes, call Suzan Javizian at 561-417-0913 ext. 204 or e-mail her at suzan@bocahelpinghands.org. You must return all boxes by Wednesday, November 1. “We’re very grateful for (volunteers) support, we’re very appreciative,” said Javizian. Those who would rather host a Fall food drive should email her. Javizian said Boca Helping Hands is low on food, largely due to Hurricane Irma. Holding a food drive would “be totally, totally helping us,” she said.

St. Andrew Parish also has volunteer opportunities for its Thanksgiving Day luncheon. The parish serves about 1,800 meals to community residents. “It has become a labor of love for the parish,” said parishioner Alan Nichols, who is president of the Men’s Club. Dinner will be served from 8am to 3pm. For more information about volunteering, send an email to samc@bellsouth.net.

Harvest Drive, Inc. drop off sites

WESTGLADES MIDDLE SCHOOL
754-322-4800
11000 Holmberg Rd., Parkland 33076

COCONUT CREEK HIGH SCHOOL
754-322-0350
1400 NW 44th Ave., Coconut Creek FL 33066

JP TARAVELLA HIGH SCHOOL
754-322-2300
10600 Riverside Dr., Coral Springs 33071

MILLENNIUM 6-12 COLLEGIATE ACADEMY
Main Office: 754-322-3900
5803 NW 94th Ave., Tamarac, FL 33321

POMPANO BEACH HIGH SCHOOL
754-322-2000
600 NE 13th Ave., Pompano Beach

PLANTATION HIGH SCHOOL
754-322-1850
6901 NW 16th St., Plantation 33313

CYPRESS BAY HIGH SCHOOL
754-323-0350
18600 Vista Park Blvd., Weston 33332

STRANAHAN HIGH SCHOOL
754-323-2102
1800 SW 5th Pl., Ft. Lauderdale 33312

WESTERN HIGH SCHOOL
754-323-2400
1200 SW 136th Ave., Davie 33325

 

 

Fighting World Hunger From Florida

The world is a hungry place.

By most estimates, nearly a billion people sharing the planet with us do not have enough to eat or are malnourished. That’s about one in seven of us. Thousands of people in third-world countries starve to death every day. Many international organizations help to feed these hungry people in various ways. Among them is ECHO, a non-profit Christian-based organization that operates from Fort Myers, Florida.

ECHO is dedicated to reducing hunger and improving life for small-scale farmers. It does that primarily by providing technical support to development groups, teaching more efficient and sustainable agriculture methods to farmers, Peace Corps volunteers, and community groups. Those people, in turn, teach others – what they call the ECHO effect. ECHO reaches these people from operational centers in Asia, West Africa, East Africa, and Central America. In ECHO’s Asian Regional Office Seed Bank in Thailand, for instance, they identify underdeveloped seeds and spread their use throughout the region to help supply nutritional food.

In addition to efficient farming practices, ECHO teaches simple technology methods that are primitive to us but dramatically improve the lives of impoverished people. They call this “appropriate technology,” which they research, demonstrate and build to help provide people with food, water, and shelter.

At its Fort Myers headquarters, ECHO conducts one-hour public tours of its Global Farm to demonstrate efficient farming methods in conditions around the world. The farm serves as a training ground for interns who train 14 months before working with small-scale farmers in developing countries.

On this day, veteran tour guide Vic Estoye explained various farming methods and simple technologies ECHO brings to impoverished regions of the world. “We help them make what they need out of what they have,” he said. “Nothing is universal. It must adapt to the country, culture, and skills.” Walking among tall bamboo stands and exotic plants, we stopped to taste cherries from a Barbados cherry tree. Estoye explained that when these trees are planted along schoolyards in poor areas, the cherries provide children with a rich supply of vitamin C.

By mixing animal waste and water in a barrel, ECHO teaches how to produce methane gas to fuel a simple one-burner stove for cooking, which is especially important in areas with a growing wood shortage because so much has been used. Among other things, ECHO teaches how to make cooking stoves of clay, how to build a motor-free well water pump, and how to filter dirty water, making it safe to drink.

The Global Farm demonstrates the value of unusual plants. Farmers, for instance, can plant a special peanut variety whose roots fertilize the nearby soil for growing other farm products. At the farm, you’ll see demonstration of rice paddies, pools of fish (tilapia) that feed on duckweed, and above ground and rooftop gardening methods that don’t need traditional fertilizer.

The Global Farm offers two tours – one focusing on farming, the other on simple technology. The farm also features a nursery that displays exotic plants, with fruits and vegetables for sale. A gift shop and bookstore offers books and seeds that are helpful to Florida gardeners. The tour fee is $12.50 for adults.

As a non-profit organization, ECHO receives the highest marks from Charity Navigator, which rates substantial charities from financial data. According to the latest report, Echo spends little more than 6 percent of money raised on fundraising, about 10 percent on administration and general expenses, and 84 percent directly on programs and services – a top rating. You can learn more about ECHO from its website, echonet.org.

What’s love got to do with it? Possibly everything

 

As much as we may deny it, love is an overpowering experience that most of us want to feel. In fact, many of us yearn to be loved. Have you ever sat down and thought, “What does it mean to feel loved by my partner?” In essence, what is your partner doing during these specific times that makes you feel wanted and loved?

Touch: Touching can make people feel wanted but most importantly, feel loved. What kind of touching do you crave from your partner? Have you ever discussed with your partner how you would like to be touched? For example, some people feel loved when their partners spontaneously hold their hands, or rest their feet on each other as they are watching television. These times simply depend on your preferences and comfort levels. It may feel awkward to talk about; however, open communication with your partner will lead you to effectively discuss your needs and desires. In turn, you will feel wanted, sought after, and loved.

Show appreciation: Feeling appreciated can make people feel valued, respected, and loved. When do you feel appreciated by your partner? How do you show your partner that he/she is valued and appreciated? Small gestures like leaving a thoughtful post-it on your bathroom mirror, saying “I love you” before you leave the house, and offer random compliments such as “I really like your outfit” can positively shift a relationship and make each partner feel appreciated and loved.

Be a team: Being a team and helping one another can make both individuals feel recognized, supported, and loved. What part of your daily routine do you wish your partner could be more hands-on with? Are your responsibilities as a couple divided fairly or in a way that works for both of you? Think of yourselves as being on the same team. Teammates look out for one another, pick up the slack when another needs help, and understand that they are all on the same level. Support each other and you will feel loved.

Offer emotional support: Actively listening to each other can make individuals feel recognized, acknowledged, and loved. Do you normally feel as if your partner is not listening to you? People typically repeat themselves when they feel they are not being heard. Make sure to be present for one another, physically and emotionally. Make eye contact when your partner is talking to you and try to sit or stay in one place when communicating. People can feel as if you are not listening to them or fully paying attention if you are walking around or doing things around the house. You may be beyond exhausted sometimes, but your partner still needs you. Discuss what you are able to physically and emotionally give your partner and what you are looking to receive as well.

Compromise: Relationships are all about give and take. Finding a balance can result in both of you feeling mutually respected and loved. Does your partner make you feel like his/her opinion is more important than your opinion? Is it always about what he/she wants to do? This can cause individuals to feel invisible in their relationship. Sometimes people don’t compromise because they really don’t know how. Be upfront with your partner and essentially tell him/her what you would like or need and come to some form of middle ground. This may sound odd or wrong to you, but there is no right way to compromise. Do what works best for your relationship. The whole point is to feel happy, valued, and loved by your partner.

Be patient with one another. It takes time to make positive changes and to alter the way we interact with each other. The goal is to have a strong and solid relationship by doing what works best for you and your partner; something only you as a couple can define.

Celeste Catania-Opris, Ph.D., LMFT, offers therapeutic services to individuals, couples, and families. Contact her at 954-655-0718; www.TherapyForModernHousewives.com.

 

Predator-Proof Your Child

~ Is this the first year your child will be coming home to an empty house after school?

~ Is your child starting school for the first time?

~ Is your child walking to school alone this year?

Are you concerned about your child’s safety? You should be! Today, the threat to children from predators is greater than ever before. Predators come in a wide variety. There are those who kidnap kids for ransom. There are perverts who kidnap children for their twisted sexual pleasure. And there are predators who kidnap mostly girls but also some boys for the sex industry. Some are forced into prostitution; others are coerced into posing for nude or sexually explicit videos or photos.

Are you scared yet?

Kidnappings and other bad scenarios occur through a variety of ploys. Sometimes a kidnapper will grab a child and try to force him/her into a car. More often, a lure is used to make the child want to go off with the predator. “My dog just had puppies. Do you want to come see them?” is still a popular ruse, as is, “I’ve lost my dog. Will you come with me to help me find him?” A more recent ruse is, “We’re filming a commercial [or a movie] a few blocks from here. Do you want to be in it? Come with me.” Some predators will watch for a child leaving school and walking alone, and then follow him or her at a distance, so the child doesn’t realize he/she is being followed until he/she is almost home. Then the predator makes his move.

Another ruse occurs when the predator singles out a child who is apparently waiting for a ride. The predator tells the child, “Your mother is busy and couldn’t come get you. She asked me to pick you up and bring you home.” But of course, home is not where he will take the child.

But my use of the pronoun “he” shouldn’t leave you believing it’s only men who are predators. While the majority are men, there are women predators too, especially those recruiting kids for the sex industries.

Teach your child these basic safety rules:

  • If a kidnapper tries to carry you away by force, scream loudly, “Let me go! You’re not my father!” so passersby don’t think it’s just a case of a dad disciplining an unruly child.
  • Turn around from time to time as you walk and be aware of your surroundings.
  • If you think you’re being followed, look for a police officer, or go into a store, or look for a woman who has a child with her, and ask for help.
  • If you think you’re being followed and nobody is home, go to a neighbor’s house and ring the bell.
  • If you’re home alone and the doorbell rings, ask who’s there without opening the door. Never tell anyone you are home alone. Say “My mom is busy, she can’t come to the door.” If the person says he has a package someone must sign for, or if he says he’s a police officer, don’t believe him. Call a trusted neighbor and ask her or him to come over and find out who’s really at the door.
  • If you are really scared, call 9-1-1 and tell them what is going on.

And finally, establish a code word with your child. If you usually pick him/her up from school, band, dance class, Scouts, or wherever, and one day you really do need to send a friend in an emergency, share the code word with the person you’re sending. She (or he) can then say to the child, “Your mother asked me to bring you home. Your secret code word is ‘kangaroo.’” Your child hears the code word and knows it’s safe to go with the person. After you’ve used the code word, change it.

There are definitely “bad guys” out there, but with caution and common sense you can keep your child safe from predators.